Learning a big lesson

Hi Bruno,

Thanks a lot for your letters. All your letters are read very carefully by me. I am often tempted to reply, this time I can not resist.

I am a jolly person, always ready to laugh (also about myself) and full of ideas, how to solve problems. And I tell you, having helped so many persons I learned myself a big lesson: you do not help them by helping them, but by letting them find out, sooner or later, what they themselves have to change in their lives.

I learned: everybody is different, acts differently. I learned to say NO when I felt
obliged (by my education) to help, because I was again and again "used" by persons. At last I learned, this all had to happen to me in order that I learned, not to take the responsibility for all the problems in the world.

I have given up most of my voluntary work, this gives me more time for me and the family, including our animals and for my needs.

You will notice, that in the group I mostly walk alone, just enjoying the moments with all the dogs, that makes me happy.

Thank you for having me as a walking-member, I shall join you as soon as it is cooler
Ruth.

I love what Ruth has written about learning a big lesson.
She discovered why she was always willing to help others.
She is now aware of her hidden motives.
It of course does not mean that I am against helping others.
It means for me that it is very rewarding to discover why we are behaving like we are behaving.

Let me give you an example.
I believe what Ruediger Dahlke describes in one of his earlier books.
Many people who are "saving" animals like cats and dogs are doing it because (unconsciously) they want to be saved themselves.
The same people however will (unconsciously)roast another animal in the evening and not even think about "saving" it.
When I talk about this, most persons I am talking to, will be angry at me.

Are you?

Love.

Brunothedoglistener